I have a question. What does it mean to be normal?
Sir Webster says it means: according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule, or principle; conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern.
Okay, but what is being normal? Beyond the definition, beyond the everyday burnt out usage of it...what is being normal? Does it mean to not fall too far away from what everyone else is doing? In that case, there is a problem!
If we are concerned with being normal, that is not falling too far away from what everyone else is doing, then we are in trouble. And yes, we all are guilty of being this person, at certain points in our lives. Wearing certain clothes to try and fit in, talking a certain way in an attempt to be like everyone else, hanging out with certain people so you can be included in the "cool" group, etc.
Why do we get so concerned with being normal?
I believe people become afraid of what others will think of them. And this isn't just the case for adolescents, it grows on adults as well. There's always that person trying to get in every picture, the person always wondering what their friends think of them, etc. The problem is, they become so consumed with how they will be perceived, that they lose the entire meaning of life.
Who freaking cares what car you drive? Who cares what designer bag/clothes you have? Who cares how many people you know? Who cares how many places you have been? Who cares what you look like?
It's the concept of self.
Consumed in the likeness of ourselves, losing the ability to see the meaning of life, because we are in our own way. It's simple, and easily solved. It comes in another definition of 'normal':
It's that simple! What is normal, is naturally occurring.
We all have influences in our lives; family, friends, media, etc. It is how we use those outlets of knowledge and information, that lead to our successes or our failures in life. I believe that self consumed people are unmanageable for me. That doesn't mean that I judge them, or that I was never as they are. I am just making a point, that I have learned that it is growing extremely hard for me to be able to deal with people who make themselves the focus.
As I write in my blog, and include my thoughts, with an infinite amount of 'I's used, I wouldn't want the focus to be on me. I must reiterate that I am presenting thoughts. I am not trying to say that I am right. As a matter of fact, I don't believe that everything I say holds truth to it. The intent is to spark thought amongst yourselves, with the hope that I can offer some alternative insight.
To conclude my thought on being "normal", I would like to make a point, spiritually.
I believe that being a Christian is a normal thing. It is the largest religion in the world, and continues to grow. But I believe that being a CHRISTIAN is not a "normal" thing. Being a Christian means to be a follower of Jesus Christ; striving to live as He lived, for all the days of our lives. It is rare that people exemplify Jesus on a regular basis, therefore making it a step out of the norm. Point being, instead of getting caught up in what people think, try this on for size; get caught up in what Jesus thinks.
Maybe it will serve as a postscript (P.S.), but I had this thought conjured in my mind the other day, and I kind of just ran with it. It is an idea relating to feelings in a relationship.
Someone catches your eye, so you go talk to the person. You find them to be very interesting. Then you begin to like them. So you begin hanging out with them on a regular basis. Then, you begin to really like them, and maybe have some feelings of lust/infatuation/extreme likeness. So, you increase the rate at which you spend time with the person. Over a great period of time (which varies from relationship to relationship), you become enthralled with the person, and fall in love. And they lived happily ever after.
But what happens next?
I can see it with different relationships, mainly between my grandparents and parents, that this is all well and good to a certain extent. I thoroughly believe that my grandparents are in love. But why do they always nag each other, and talk trash about each other...to each other? I feel that they are in love, but they don't necessarily like each other anymore, or as much. In an ideal and perfect situation, and I only assume how incredibly awesome this is. The ability to like someone again, after you are in love with them. When you reach that point of ridiculously comfortability with that person, and you are so settled that nothing could ever rock you two, try liking that person again. Tell them how much you actually care for them. Show them how much you actually care for them. Be there for them at all times. Display your likeness for them, amidst the extravagant love. Because that, is what I call perfection in a relationship.